Plan the Time

This has to be one of the most awkward conversations you will ever have to have. Make sure that you don’t just blurt it out, particularly when you are angry. You have to have a quiet calm time when you are not going to be interrupted.

Who Should be There?

You and your spouse should be there, and you should show a united front to the children. You and the spouse should prepare for the meeting and agree about how you are going to go about telling them.

Be Reassuring

You don’t want to alarm the children. You want to make them feel secure and make sure that they know that both of you are there for in the future, as you have been in the past. In some ways, it can be an improvement. Often, during visitation, you are in a position to have quality time, and perhaps do things that you didn’t find time for before.

Keep It Simple

For the first discussion, try to stick to the basic facts. Let them know who will be living where and tell them as much about the visitation schedule as you can. If you haven’t been able to agree on child custody arrangements, you will have to tell them that a judge will be making those decisions, but regardless of the decision, that you both will be there for them, as you always have been.

If you want to discuss this, call Ty Zdravko. Ty Zdravko practices law as a divorce attorney, and family law attorney in Palm Harbor, Clearwater and the surrounding area. For more information, visit our website at www.divorceboardcertified.com
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